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Commitment
Dear Dr. Ava
Q & A, Single Women
by Dr. Ava Cadell
Commitment
Question: I'm the first person my boyfriend ever slept with, while I have had a few partners before him. He loves me and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, but that he wants to sleep with other people first. Is that normal and should I let him go and sleep with other woman?
Answer: Yes, it’s totally normal for men to want to have sex with a variety of women before they settle down with one. Since he has expressed this desire for experimentation, no matter what you say, he will ultimately do whatever it takes to fulfill his sexual desires. He’s going to do what nature calls for, so the best thing you can do is to cut him loose. Now before you break down in tears, here’s the good news. Since he has professed his love for you and if he’s sincere, he’s talking about having a few sexual experiences, not romances or love affairs. You may be interested to know that there are places where a man can go that are legal where he can fulfill his sexual fantasies without any emotional attachment. I’m talking about places like the Moonlite Bunny Ranch in Carson City, near Nevada. This place even encourages couples to meet and play with their working girls. The bottom line is that it’s really tough to be monogamous and have sex with only one person for your entire life, so talk to your boyfriend about his needs and let him know that it’s okay with you. He’ll appreciate your willingness to understand him and he’ll love you even more for it. The fact is that the more freedom you give a man, the less he wants. And while you wait for him, do read my book,12 Steps to Everlasting Love, so he will never want to stray again.
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